Questions Kids Want Answered

These are a few of the questions that kids want answered when going into or living in foster care:

During the first week:

  • Why didn’t my parents want me?
  • Is it my fault?
  • When will I go home?
  • Can I still see my parent(s)? When? Can I call them? When? How often?
  • Can I see my brothers or sisters? When? Can I call them? When? How often?
  • Can I see my friends? When? How much?
  • Can I go into the refrigerator without permission?
  • Where are all my clothes and stuff? Can I get them?

During the first month:

  • What religious views does this new family have and can I still go to my church?
  • Will these new people provide or let me do the things I like to do? Hunting, fishing. football, music, friends….….
  • Can I still drive?
  • Can I keep my job?
  • Could I live with my best friend?
  • How am I going to keep up in school if I have to start all over in a new school?
    • Will my credits transfer?
  • If I get in trouble do I get kicked out?
  • What happens at court? Can I go? Should I go?
  • Do I have any right to have a say so in what happens at court?
  • Do I have the right to talk to the judge?
  • If my social worker does not call me, what should I do?
  • If I don’t get along with my foster parents, who should I tell?
  • Can I see some of the stuff that is written about me?
  • If my worker does not call me back, what can I do? Who else can I call?
  • What do all the words mean:
    • Custody
    • Termination of parental rights
    • Adjudication
    • “UA”
    • Supervised visitation
    • Permanency Planning

Within six months:

  • Do I have any say where I live?
  • How can I tell the judge what I am thinking?
  • Can I just go live on my own? (older youth)
  • Can I get an allowance?